being held together

For months now (almost a year), there has been a new consistency that has emerged in my longings and petitions before the Father; One, that He would be gracious to remind me of His faithfulness today, and rather than me finding myself spinning my wheels trying to be a ‘faithful follower’ or ’servant,’ that I would be so captured by the reality of His faithfulness that my life would simply be a response to that knowledge today. Two – that the Father would ‘hold me steady’ through the turbulence of a season in my life that can only be described as one of obedience, waiting and development.

I look forward to expounding more openly in the coming days on some of the learnings, struggles and
realities of some of the things the Father has been revealing in me, healing in me and accomplishing through me as I continue my walk with Him.

Let the blogging resume…

Lovin’ My Lawn This Week…

Over the past week or two, I’ve been doing a lot of walking around our neighborhood and have noticed a few lawns that are really close to prime form already.  But what’s funny is how many lawns look ‘pristine’ from a distance, but once you get up on them, how imperfect they really are.  Here’s my encouragement when I start taking notice of lawns this time of year: There’s still a whole lot of warm days ahead and a good lawn is going take a little extra time and effort.  So don’t find yourself too envious of the guy with the Horticulture degree down the street, and keep in mind that those guys really are few and far between.  And PLEASE…don’t allow yourself to go wandering into neighborhoods this time of year where every person on the street is paying someone to keep their lawn nice a plush for them; there are more of those than you might think.  We’re working for a mid-spring boom here…

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He’s Here!

After two weeks of keeping us on the edge of our seats, we finally got to meet our newest addition last night. Elisha Grant Shelton made his grand entrance into the world at 8pm EST on Sunday, March 22nd (shortly after Sunday’s NCAA Basketball action) weighing 8lb. 1oz. and measuring 22 inches long. Molly did an amazing job yesterday, and both are doing great today!

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Shelton4.org Live and Ready for Baby’s Arrival

Despite a dismal and receeding economy, some things are actually growing – one of which is our family.  Baby Shelton #2 is now due at any time.  Therefore, Shelton3.com has become Shelton4.org.  Follow the latest happenings, subscribe for updates, put in your 2-cents on the baby-poll there…

resuming soon…

For too many reasons to explain right now, I’ve been absent from blogging the last few months.  I’ve been wondering, “has anyone even noticed?”  I mean, with so much stuff being written every day and seemingly less and less time available to just casually “browse the web,” who would notice, much less even care, if another blog just sort of fell by the wayside?

Here’s why I’m going to resume blogging; not to find validation from the words and thoughts of others; not to market myself in a world that seems to fall further into a narcissism-of-words and infatuation with self; not to set myself against others by pointing out their faults so as to attempt to make myself look better.  I’m going to resume blogging because God is still speaking, through me, through you, through the world around us.  And I forget all too easily.  There’s a purpose in writing things down, in capturing thoughts, in making marks.  We’re a forgetful people in a busy world that is constantly distracting us from the One True Voice that can give life.

I look forward to jumping back in…

well-rounded…

I’m currently coaching some friends through their StrengthsFinder® talent themes.  It’s fun and interesting to learn about how others see themselves, watching those ah-hah moments take place as someone gains a bit more perspective toward their own self-awareness – something of which few people actually possess.

Today during one of my coaching sessions, I was reminded of something I heard a few weeks ago while at a training seminar concerning our pursuit of becoming the “well-rounded” person.  It seems whenever I come across someone who seems to have talent after talent after talent, I find myself quite intimidated, and perhaps even frustrated with myself that I haven’t been able to learn as much, acquire as many skills, retain as much knowledge as the other person.

So what do we do when we find ourselves trying to measure up to the next person?  We try to learn more stuff so that we can become well-rounded.

Here’s what I think being well-rounded really means for most of us…it means that I want to be independent, that I don’t want to depend on anyone, need anyone.  I want to have it all together (or at least perceived that way).  The total-package.  A real man or real woman.  Well-rounded.

Here’s what I think being well-rounded equates to…shallowness, loneliness, emptiness.

I love how Curt Liesveld of Gallup put this a few weeks ago.  When you visualize well-rounded, you might think of it as a circle.  When it comes to the individual, the contents is what you end up getting.  A big “zero.”  Empty.  Shallow.

To think of being well-rounded in terms of community seems to make more sense to me.  I’ve got talents.  You’ve got talents.  I’ve also got weaknesses, and you’ve got weaknesses.  Therefore, our goal is essentially not to become well-rounded individuals; instead, our goal is to become a well-rounded community – a group of people who are depending on one another out of their strengths and weaknesses.  A group of people who look to one-another (out of their own self-awareness) with appreciation for what the other has to offer.  A network of relationships where “I need you” is a predominant part of the language.

Our goal at Awaken, my goal in relationship with each of you is for us together to become well-rounded - not as individuals, but as a community.  And as we do so, we recognize the wholeness Jesus brings to each of us through His Body, the Church.

coloring outside the lines…

“Live freely, animated and motivated by God’s Spirit.” _Galatians 5:16 (msg)

Last night I wrapped up a 4-night speaking tour that I thoroughly enjoyed and that almost thoroughly exhausted me. I love having the opportunity to speak to new audiences about ideas and thoughts I’ve been wrestling with for a while, and being able to serve Christ in such a way is nothing less than a privilege.

I’ve also been enjoying a period of time off from teaching each Sunday at Awaken, having my friend Ken Chester leading us through a 6-week journey through the Chronicles of Jesus. This has given me time to recharge my creative batteries a bit and to focus on some of the details and check the pulse of our vision at Awaken. I have to say that I continue to grow in my admiration for people who are able to keep the creativity flowing on a regular basis, who have guarded themselves well against the crash-and-burn that comes with a sudden loss of creative energy by learning how to pace themselves day to day. I’m still learning.

As I take some time to refuel on this little creative hiatus, I came across a question a few weeks ago in some of my readings that I thought to be quite interesting. It was a creative exercise where I was asked to list 3 “champions” of my creative-self and 3 “enemies.” What I was able to see was how the ‘champions’ I listed all shared a common theme…people who believed in me, who recognized a raw talent and spoke to an area I desperately needed and desired to hear their affirmation (and by the way, I cheated…I couldn’t limit it to 3).

The ‘enemies’ of my creativity were identified as individuals or organizations who have wanted me to ’stay inside the lines,’ to color neatly, predictably, just like others around me. Now, I guess my mom can bear witness to this little fact better than anyone…the fact that I’ve never been able to color inside the lines very well. I still can’t do it well today. Maybe it’s from my figgedy hands that always like to tap on something. Maybe it’s my lack of patience with creating certain things. Maybe it’s what I inherited from my dad who has the handwriting of a doctor. I don’t know. Nonetheless, I don’t color within the lines well and never have.

It’s interesting to see how this has become such a definitive of my journey so far and how it continues to be. I remember my public speaking professor in college telling me several times that I didn’t have a good voice for speaking, that I was boring…all topped off with a “C” for the class. Could it be that I just wasn’t that interested in what I was speaking about? Could it be that there’s a better communicator in all of us than we realize…it’s just that we don’t get to talk about the things we enjoy often enough? Maybe…

When it has come to the ‘champions’ of my creativity, they’ve all been people who’ve seen the value in how I color and the potential of what my coloring could become. People who believed in me, who continue to do so.

Besides, I’m convinced that it’s not those who color inside the lines who necessarily make the greatest marks on the things around them.

Living freely, animated and motivated by God’s Spirit today…

let it go…

…never to resurface. A reflection on forgiveness from the worship team at Awaken…

shelton3.com updated…

Julia learns how to drink out of her own cup...Hey guys…I’d love for you to check out our family-site with some new pics of my beautiful little girl, Julia! Man, she’s growing!

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a recent success…

Almost two weeks ago I attended a coaches training for the Clifton StrengthsFinder® in Hickory, NC with several others pastors, church-planters and community leaders from around Greensboro. During one of the training sessions we were all asked to list a couple of “recent successes” we’d had in life, ministry, etc. First of all, I love this question because it obviously focuses our minds and hearts toward some positive areas in our lives that perhaps we commonly overlook. Success here doesn’t necessarily have to be related to a huge event that took place, nor anything which may have been ‘noticeable’ to others. It’s a great question and one that I wish I’d ask more.

Our habit here more often than not seems to be a tendency to move on from our successes a bit too quickly, not taking time to properly notice them and celebrate them. Is this because we feel like we’ve got so many other areas of failure in our lives that we need to quickly move on with the momentum of our success in order to fix them? Or, is it that we feel too prideful about celebrating any success in our lives or too afraid that our success will only be short lived until our next encounter with failure – so why bother, right? My friend Justin and I were talking just last week about how poorly we’ve been celebrating in our own church-community and how we just need to have a party – just because…

So back to the coaches training…I began to list a few things right off the top of my head that I felt to be recent successes in my own life, beginning with my family (my beautiful wife, Molly, and our success so far in raising our daughter, Julia)…being a part of a youth-event in Wilson, NC recently where we saw over 40 kids surrender their lives to Jesus Christ…our growth in the area of financial stewardship and the ability to live more debt-free…

As the time came for me to share with about 20 others in the room, something else came to mind, something that didn’t hit me until right there in that moment. Including the successes above, I realize that I no longer see what I’m doing as a church-planter and a pastor as a failure compared to what others are doing. In fact, over the past few months I’ve grown to appreciate more about what others are doing rather than feeling like I have to measure up or set myself up against anything that’s different from what God has called us to be and do at Awaken.

I can’t tell you in words how much of a success this is for me, how much growth has taken place in my life just to get to this point. I’m still trying to figure out how to properly celebrate this, but one thing I’m doing in the meantime is experiencing an enjoyment that I haven’t had in several years.

Recently, I’ve been reading through Galatians and how the writer, Paul, is distinguishing between a life of human-attempt and a life of living in God’s promise (see chapters 3-4). I’ve been reminded just how futile striving for success through my own efforts truly is and how what I do celebrate and find complete satisfaction in is nothing short of what only God has accomplished through me.

Where is that joyful and grateful spirit you felt…? _Galatians 4:15 NLT

1When the Lord brought back his exiles to Jerusalem, it was like a dream! 2 We were filled with laughter, and we sang for joy. And the other nations said, “What amazing things the Lord has done for them.” 3 Yes, the Lord has done amazing things for us! What joy! 4 Restore our fortunes, Lord, as streams renew the desert. 5 Those who plant in tears will harvest with shouts of joy. 6 They weep as they go to plant their seed, but they sing as they return with the harvest. _Psalms 126:1-6 NLT